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My Life Now I'm Medication Free

10 November 2019
09:20



If you had met me 2 years ago, you would have met a calm, funny, outgoing person who was lying to herself about how she was.  Someone who would go home and just sit for hours on end binging Netflix, who had no social outing planned because she felt like she either wasn't really wanted there or just couldn't be bothered to go. Someone who had a husband and loved him, but rarely showed affection because she had so many drugs in her system, she couldn't feel her emotions. Someone who was a shadow of who she was before the medication. 

I used to take 3 pain medications for the pain, 2 for anxiety and depression, 1 for symptom control and 2 for sleep. This was how I functioned for 5 years. 5 years of being a shadow and feeling disconnected from myself and numb. 

It wasn't until I found out I was pregnant that things changed. I wasn't allowed my medication; it would harm the baby. So, I made the decision to stop all my drugs at once. Everything. Not a recommended way to do it but that's what I chose. It felt like I'd been hit by a bus, everything I'd been controlling medicinally came hurling back. I was in pain. I was sad. I was anxious. I barely left the house for the first 4 months, but what I didn't notice because of all the shit, was that I was slowly became myself again. No longer a shadow of myself but actually someone who could laugh, cry and feel.

Over the last few days I've hit a rough patch. Life has hit me in unexpected ways that I wasn't prepared for and it triggered a massive anxiety episode, something I haven't had to experience for 2 years. Yes, I had had some small anxieties about everyday things but nothing to actually trigger an episode or bout of anxiety that has made me feel paralysed like this. 
It has taken this to make me realise that the way I feel when I'm anxious now, medication free, is so intense because I'm actually feeling it. Before, a panic attack made me feel sick and dizzy, the drugs numbed the rest but also made me not able to rationalise my emotions. Now, anxiety makes me feel like I'm full of bee's, the nervous energy makes me feel sick and like I need to run 100 miles but my mind is clear and I can talk myself into a state of acceptance and understanding. 

I talked to my husband about how I've been feeling. He has been there when I'm on so many drugs I could barely function and he has been here during my time getting off them and he is with me now, during this difficult time. He said this to me after I said I didn't want to go back on my medications during this rough patch; 

"You are only so scared by your anxiety now because you actually feel like a person." 

That really hit home. Over the last 2 years, I have become a person again. I like going and seeing my friends and connecting socially, I like taking my child to the park and going outside, I like the gym now instead of finding it intense, I cry at sad films and books, I have a sex drive and can't leave my husband alone! I have become a person, and am no longer the shadow that my medicines made me. 

If you met me now, you'd meet a friendly, loving, sometimes eccentric individual who is likely to be nervously tapping her foot due to anxiety but you know what, there is no fakeness now. That's just who I am. 

Stay golden, 
Paige
xoxo


*if you have any mental health issues or feel like you’re are overwhelmed, please go to a doctor to talk about them. Just because something has worked for me, doesn't mean it will work for you.

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Water
Everything on the earth bristled, the bramble
pricked and the green thread
nibbled away, the petal fell, falling
until the only flower was the falling itself.
Water is another matter,
has no direction but its own bright grace,
runs through all imaginable colors,
takes limpid lessons
from stone,
and in those functionings plays out
the unrealized ambitions of the foam.

~Pablo Neruda